What is Pegging?
If you’re here, you probably have an idea of what pegging is but want to learn more.
Quite plainly, Pegging is a sex act in which a Woman adopts a dominant role, using a strap-on dildo with a harness, to penetrate a man anally. The term itself was created to give clear distinction from gay sex and to allow those that enjoy the alluring power exchange to easily discuss their exciting activities in the bedroom in less clinical terms.
While descriptions of this tantalizing tactic go as far back as the Marquis De Sade, the term made headlines in 2001 after Dan Savage used it in his saucy advice column “Savage Love.”
As all subjects or activities that challenge heteronormativity, patriarchy, or any status quo do, pegging stirs up a great deal of fervor in most anyone that knows about it. Pegging usurps the established hierarchy of straight sex and that will either excite the strong, or make the weak squirm.
For many men, they relish the chance to give up control and surrender themselves fully to raw feminine power. Women often find a new part of their psyche can be set free to take command of not only the act itself, but the space and time they occupy as well as more agency and power in their own body.
And some women, like me, just enjoy the thrill of watching a man beg for it…
How does pegging work?
Ready to dive deeper? Me too. It is best to engage in pegging, like any sexual act, with someone you trust. Pegging is most erotic and enjoyable when you have communicated clearly about some very important details such as:
Comfort
Are you a novice? A gaper? Somewhere in the middle? Always be direct and honest about your comfort level and experience with anal play, whether it’s just been digital penetration during self-discovery or you have been training for years, the way you introduce your holes will make a big impact on how your domme treats them. There’s nothing like pushing the limits of my experienced bottoms, leaving them out of breath with my latest huge toy. But my ability to put a brand new devotee at ease is really something to behold.
Preference
Preference for dildo size, thickness, texture, and material are just as important as condom type, lube type, and more. If you are not yet sure, but you are open to discovery, always be direct, your comfort and honesty will allow you to truly open up, relax, and fully master yourself from the inside- out. This is why I enjoy having such a selection of dildos, and am happy to help find which of mine can truly fill your void.
Health
Discussing any physical, mental, or emotional health issues that may arise during your exploration is key to enjoying yourself and to allowing your domme to navigate your body safely.
Sometimes accommodations need to be made in order to explore in a way that feels good for everyone, and that’s part of the trust and devotional process of submission.
Pegging is enacted with preparation, care, and patience. There are specifics further in this article to help you with that, but for now, once you are both ready, you can start by lubricating yourself and the dildo to make insertion more smooth and pleasurable.
Using a finger to massage your anus and slowly penetrate it may be a great way to ease any tension in the area.
Then, when it feels right and you are in the position you like best, start by inserting the tip of the dildo with slow, intentional, constant pressure to ease it inside. See? You already follow my lead very well!
Breathe.
Always breathe, as breathtaking as I am…
Try breathing in through your nose for 4 counts and out through your mouth for 4 counts when you are experiencing tension, as this may be a very helpful exercise to center yourself, ease any pain, and accept more of the dildo inside.
Soon you will be fully penetrated, and when you’re ready you can begin to explore new positions, new scenarios, a whole new purpose in life. Lucky you!
Anal Training vs. Pegging
It’s definitely not a sprint to the finish line, especially with newcomers to the sport!
The journey can be sensual, athletic at times, and especially playful, to become comfortable with pegging, and the need to train your body is one you should not ignore.
One way to prepare for pegging is Anal Training.
Anal Training can be done alone or with a partner or Domme in preparation for pegging using Anal or Butt Plugs.
Increasingly larger plugs are placed in the anus until the wearer becomes comfortable with the insertion and removal of each size, gradually working up to their desired girth and length.
Anal Training can be a fun way to weave the excitement of submission into your everyday schedule.
Imagine inserting your initial plug during your morning shower, and going about your day, knowing that you are slowly preparing for an incredible gift, once you have become strong enough, and mastered your own body, in order to offer it to, and receive, the intimate experience of a Domme’s power.
The anus is a beautifully resilient and flexible muscle that can be pushed to limits many would not believe.
Anal training helps to stretch and strengthen this muscle, over time, so that pegging becomes even more enjoyable for everyone involved. If you can’t tell, it’s something I have plenty of experience with, find deep pleasure in, and can help anyone, no matter the experience level, to expand more completely.
How to prepare
Now that you are comfortable and feeling ready to engage in such a special and exciting act, it’s time to make sure your mind, body, and environment are also prepared.
While it’s easier said than done, try to let go of any social stigmas, shame, or judgements you may harbor regarding anal penetration. To have a submissive with a curious, open mind and body truly excites me. But those with deep shame around this act they desire are just as welcome in my world, and can always be completely re-trained.
Anatomy is fascinating and your Prostate, referred to as the male G-Spot, is yours to access at will if you can shed any social conditioning preventing you from exploring your own body.
Prostate stimulation is an exciting effect of pegging, and can surprise many men when they first experience the full-body orgasmic release from this.
Owning your body and all its incredible capabilities is one of the most innate human rights we have, don’t let any culture, ideology, person, or thing prevent you from realizing your full potential.
Submission is an ultimate form of self-reflection and human connection, trusting yourself to relinquish control and communicate honestly, and trusting a Domme to take you somewhere you’ve never been and to care for you while she does it.
Physically preparing is very simple, especially if you have experienced some Anal Training in preparation.
Shower as usual, relax your body, and take a bit of time to ensure your anus is also clean and prepped by checking with a finger first and then using the appropriate tools to clean out the area to be penetrated.
Some people enjoy the feeling of cleaning out with an enema, and if this makes you more comfortable and confident, that’s a great ritual to adopt.
Be sure to be mindful of exactly how deep you may be inserting any enema, because if it goes further inside than planned you may have to spend extra time cleaning out because of stool that was loosened from deep in the body.
Allowing enough time to prepare in a relaxed way is key to physical comfort during pegging.
And finally, creating an environment where you and the Domme feel most comfortable is really important.
I take a great deal of time to think about the mood I’m setting, any story I want to tell, or journey I want to take my submissives on, during our exploration sessions.
Music, lighting, towels, toys, lube, condoms, couches, beds, or even on the floor if you’re really devotional, all of these options play a big part in creating the best scenario possible.
Whether you are preparing your space for a Domme or entering her lair, always communicate around the setting to ensure you will both feel at ease and ready to play.
Hygiene and Lube
Hygienic preparation discussed previously is an important part of pegging as it shows respect for yourself and for any Domme ready to play with you.
Ensuring that you are well-groomed and prepared to receive is such an easy way to show your excitement and appreciation for the opportunity to serve and offer yourself to a Domme.
If you have any specific hygiene questions or requests you should definitely talk about these on my booking form when inquiring about a session.
Lubrication is the key to a sensational session, especially for new experiences.
Everyone has their preference for lubes, some enjoy flavored or scented lubes for a treat, some prefer water based over silicone based lubes, I will talk about some key differences here.
Flavored/Scented lubes can be delightful and exciting and a fun way to play. As with any product, ensure you have no allergies or sensitivities to the ingredients.
Silicone based lubes are very slick, fun, and last longer than water-based with each application as it does not absorb so quickly into the skin. You can remove this type of lube from any surfaces with alcohol wipes or spray.
Water based lubes are great if you don’t enjoy the lingering nature of silicone based formulas. You may have to reapply more often as it is absorbed and for some people these can be a bit drying.
Try each type to find your personal preference and enjoy the sensations along the way.
You may even find yourself becoming obsessed with lubes, jellies, or gels like me. I have recently become obsessed with Nuru gel and its slippery, sloppy texture is heavenly on the body.
How to book Mx Tomie
Now that you are my favorite pegging expert, and such a great student, you have the chance to prove it in the flesh!
If you think you have what it takes to submit to the Premiere Asian Dominatrix of your dreams, then reach out and book a scintillating session.
I’ll be ready to test you thoroughly.
To apply to serve Me, go here to fill out my application form, or email my assistant at mxtomieassistant@protonmail.com.
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