What is Anal Training?
Anal training is the practice of stretching your anus to become comfortable with penetration. Anal training is a patient practice over time, often to prepare for anal sex with a dildo, toy, or penis, but not always ending with this intercourse.
Anal training is also a sexy and athletic way to get your asshole used to larger and larger butt plugs, anal beads, extreme dildos, or prostate massagers.
Anal is not a kinky mystery for everyone. And let’s be honest. You are here because you want to prepare your asshole to please me when you muster up the courage to finally meet.
My personal philosophy is that a man’s first experience with penetration should not be a doctor checking if your prostate has cancer. Unsexy. And, if you make a weird sound during it, embarrassing, when it’s not a hot girl forcing those noises out of you.
Anal training is a lot of fun for me because it’s such an intense experience for people and has such an immediate psychological effect. The role reversal of who is doing the penetrative act and also actively training you to take bigger sizes is exhilarating.
I adore making you an absolute slut in every way possible.
Steps To Get Started in Anal Training
Start small! Take your time! Breathe through it!
Every ambitious anal slut wants to be a porn star, but you’ve gotta remember that they’re STARS because they’re TRAINED and TALENTED. If you’ve never had anything up there other than a skinny finger, begin with a small plug first and then slowly work your way up in both size and duration.
However, If you have lived your life in fear of the pleasures that lay within you, start to become familiar with your own body through digital exploration of your perianal area and anus.
Sometimes these new feelings can be overwhelming, so go at your own pace, and always remember to breathe.
Here is a step by step guide on how start to approach Anal Training:
- Talk about anal penetration with your domme or partner
Communication is always key to every relationship, so you can never communicate too much when it comes to a new experience. Make sure your partner is on board with your interest, or that the domme you want to pop your cherry has experience guiding submissives through anal training as well.
- Anatomy
It is your body and you want it to feel good NOW! But before jumping in fully, make sure you are familiar with what you are working with! Complete freedom comes with autonomy and being able to take charge of our pleasure, or letting someone like me take over. While a clueless submissive has charm, I love a pleasure pig and anal slut that is ready to push their hole to the limit. So study up and learn where your anus, sphincter, prostate, and more are located so you are confident and ready to stretch it out.
- Overcome Judgements
If you have tension or resistance mentally you will be less receptive physically, and the key to anal pleasure is relaxation. Do your best to rid yourself of the stigma attached to anal play, and become the master of your own instrument. If it is the risk of mess you worry about, be sure to clean well, and have wipes around. The more comfortable you get with the idea that accidents can happen and they can easily be cleaned up, the more relaxed you will be.
- Exterior Exploration
Ease into this sensual moment by creating a comfortable environment to explore alone or with your partner. Music, candles, the location, the type of sheets on your bed, all senses stimulated in ways you like will help you relax. Use plenty of lube to get used to the feel of it on your asshole, even if you aren’t ready to slide your finger in just yet.
- Digital Penetration
Start with your finger tip, and remember lots of lube is always the rule. Use steady pressure and once you have a fingertip inserted, hold it in place, and do not forget to breathe through every step no matter how much this new sensation takes your breath away! Letting your finger settle in your asshole helps to relax your sphincter which paves the way for an easier anal adventure.
- Small Plugs
If you purchase an Anal Training Kit you will find it easy to see which plug to introduce to your ass. As always lube up! Add lube to your asshole and to the plug. Use the same method of applying even pressure to your hole until the tip is in and allow yourself to breathe and relax into it, or…it into you. Once you have the plug in fully, with the flared base outside your hole, try to keep it in for at least 5 minutes, breathing through it and stimulating other erogenous zones to ease the fullness.
- Size and Endurance
As you grow more comfortable with each size, try holding the plugs in for longer than 5 minutes. If you can continuously increase the size over time and your endurance, you can bet I will be impressed once I finally get my hands on you!
- Sustained Plugging
At this point you should have been training over several weeks to arrive at a place where anal penetration is enjoyable, exciting, and feels good. So the next exciting task is making sure a good anal slut can control the hole and wear a plug obediently throughout the day. You can start by inserting the smallest plug in the kit again and wearing it for an extended amount of time, doing household tasks. As you progress you can increase the size and frequency with which you wear your plug, proudly letting your domme know how excited she will be to conquer this elastic wonder.
- Dildo Penetration
Now you are ready to try penetration with a dildo, and increase the sizes of those as you become comfortable with the sensation of a big dildo plunging in and out. As always, use lube, start slow, and stop if there is any pain or discomfort. This is always the body’s way of telling you to breathe and slow down. As you insert the dildo and breathe, pay attention to what you are feeling, as there may be some deeply pleasurable prostate massage occurring and this can be exciting and overwhelming. Continue to practice penetration with a dildo, and using larger dildos, in order to become fully stretched and ready for your big day with a domme.
- Anal
You are now comfortable and excited to present your practiced hole to your domme. And you should communicate directly with her about how big you would like to start and how big you can ultimately handle. Lube up, and really be vocal about what you are feeling during your first submissive insertion as it occurs. Let her know if she needs to slow down, if you need to breathe, and if you need to take a break. But if you are the pro I think you are by now, you will only be begging me to go deeper…
Materials Needed for Anal Training
While this list is not exhaustive and can vary depending on personal preference, here are some things that are a must for anal training:
-Gloves
-Lube
-Condoms to protect toys
-Various sized Dildo/Toy/Vibrator
-Wipes or towel
-Anal Training Kit/Butt Plugs/Beads
Anal Training Kits
These are kits that include multiple sizes of butt plug in order to gradually increase the elasticity of your asshole over time. You can also achieve similar results by using Anal Beads. You just insert the beads up to the size you are comfortable with and get used to each size gradually, just like you would with any Anal Training Kit.
I love these kits in particular: (product placement)
Sex Toys
Sex toys like vibrators can help you relax while you are expanding your holes, it often helps to use something that stimulates other erogenous areas to help ease any anal resistance. Try a vibrator on your dick or balls, nipple vibrators if you have sensitive nipples, or even a suction machine while you are using a buttplug.
Lube
Make sure you try different lubes, water based, oil based, silicone based, or gels to find the sensation and consistency that works for you. Be aware that oil based lubes should not be used with latex, and sometimes water based lubes can be drying for some people. Avoid numbing lubes as they can desensitize you to your body’s pain signals and make anal more dangerous by preventing you from listening to your body’s warning to slow down. Experiment with each to really hone in on the perfect match. Some of my personal favorites are: (Product Placement)
Gloves
The best way to make sure you avoid any uncomfortable mess or sensory discomfort is to use latex or nitrile surgical gloves that allow for a close touch but give great barrier protection from any fluids that may make you uncomfortable or affect your grip.
Will Anal Training Be Painful?
If you are a pain slut, then perhaps this new sensation will be a turn on, but in most cases, any pain or discomfort is a signal that you need to slow down, breathe, and be patient in your Anal Training. Again, this should take place over several weeks at the very least. The pace is set by your body, and you should always listen to your physical limits through these pain signals.
Mitigating the pain is important and that is why lube is such a friend! Never be afraid of more lube.
As I said before, just start small. If penetration is completely new, a small finger, then small dildo or toy, and on and on until you get comfortable with larger ones. This is a marathon, not a sprint, and you will feel truly accomplished when you realize you have trained this muscle, like any other, and you can control the hole.
A Note About Safety
Taking care to stretch your holes safely is the best gift you can give yourself, patience, proper technique, and hygienic play are all imperative for a safe experience. However, accidents can happen. Perhaps you misinterpret the feeling during penetration, or the toy or dildo enters you too quickly and you think you may have a tear, or in fact, you notice blood. Stop what you are doing to assess the injury.
Take a wipe, or towel and place it against your anus with some pressure for 3-5 minutes.
If the bleeding stops, rinse your anus with cool water, use a bit of antibacterial ointment, and take a break from your training until you have healed.
If you do not stop bleeding, this may mean there is an internal tear, and you should seek medical attention immediately.
If you are using a toy or plug and it gets “sucked in” to your anus, handle and all, you can try a few things to help get it out.
First, stop, breathe, and remain calm. If you can reach in with a finger to feel around the handle of the toy, to loosen it away from the walls of your rectum and bear down lightly, as if you are going to poop, sometimes this will allow a toy to slip out.
You can ask someone you trust to try to help you do this as well.
If you are not having any luck and you feel the toy going further into your body, it is time to seek medical attention to get the toy or dildo removed. There is no shame in prioritizing your health and safety when the unexpected happens.
How to Incorporate BDSM Power Exchange into Anal Training
Incorporating power exchange into anal training can be an exhilarating way to deepen the dynamic between partners.
Here’s how you can blend the two:
Communication and Consent: Start with a candid conversation about boundaries, desires, and safe words. Ensure that both partners are on the same page and consent to the power exchange.
Establish Roles: Clearly define who will be the dominant and who will be the submissive partner. The dominant partner takes control of the anal training process, setting the pace and making decisions. As a submissive, always communicate your feelings and pay attention to your physical boundaries.
Set Goals: The dominant partner can set goals for the anal training, which might include the size of toys to be used, the depth achieved, or the duration of training sessions.
Incremental Progression: Begin with smaller toys or plugs and gradually work up to larger sizes. The dominant partner controls the progression, ensuring that the submissive is challenged but not overwhelmed. Rituals and Protocols: Introduce rituals that emphasize the power exchange, such as the submissive presenting the toys to the dominant or asking permission to orgasm.
Praise and Reward: The dominant partner can use praise and rewards to reinforce the submissive’s obedience and progress, which can be a powerful motivator.
Punishments and Consequences: If agreed upon, the dominant may implement a system of punishments for disobedience or lack of progress, which should be discussed and consented to in advance.
Aftercare: After the training session, engage in aftercare to nurture the connection and address any physical or emotional needs that arise from the power exchange.
By integrating these elements, anal training becomes not just a physical process but an emotional and psychological journey that can intensify the power exchange experience for both partners
Remember with Kinky play, whatever works best in your partnership is what you define as Kinky. Anal is not for everyone, and not everyone views it as a kinky act. You can dislike it and still be kinky in other ways! Anal play or training is not required for power exchange nor does this solely define who is submissive or dominant. Plenty of dominant partners can enjoy anal.
The Bottom Line
Anal Training is the best way to practice anal penetration in preparation for anal sex and it will help to mitigate any physical, emotional, or psychological resistance you may have before engaging in anal sex. For those that seek to add anal play to their D/S dynamic this is a fantastic activity to engage in with plenty of opportunity to negotiate and create healthy and playful boundaries between each other. Happy stretching!
